I identify as genderqueer, an umbrella term that basically means, “I don’t fit into the gender binary.” I came across this term a year ago and was instantly drawn to it.
As a person of Anishinaabe and European heritage, I have always carried multiple identities. Genderqueer is vague, which is perfect; gender itself is a social construct which is becoming increasingly vague as feminist and queer movements are gaining visibility and recognition.
Genderqueer challenges the status quo, which tells us that there are two genders and thatthey are static. People who identify as genderqueer are diverse, as it describes anyone outside of the gender norms. This makes it an attractive term to people who are not comfortable with static labels.
Many people who identify as genderqueer experience a fluid gender identity, and may present as men, women, both, or neither, according to their current frame of mind. Others consistently present as androgynous.
Some people may prefer gender-neutral pronouns, such as “xe” or “they.”
When I practice traditional, western “feminine” rituals, such as dressing up in fancy gowns and painting my face, I feel more like a drag character, a fem-gendered extension of myself.
I have experienced body dysphoria most of my life. Genderqueer helps me reconcile these feelings. I often don’t feel I am woman, but it doesn’t follow that I am therefore man.
I wonder how many people would choose a less rigid gender label if it were more acceptable in society. The overarching culture would benefit from a term that recognizes the vague nature of gender.
Perhaps “genderqueer” is that term.