Queerly Forward: Ever been fisted?

Columns November 27, 2013

Well, I hope that headline got your attention.

Oftentimes it can be difficult to talk about sexual fetishes and practices that escape the norm.

You might get a lot of awkward stares and gasps, if all of a sudden, you start talking about the arm that went up your ass the other night, or the clamps that turned your nipples into giant purple bruises, or the whips received by perfectly constructed leather flogs that left you reeling in pleasure. Many forms of sexual practices are left out of mainstream sex talk.

It’s important to understand that not all fetishes are sexual in nature. For example, some people just enjoy being wrapped up in cellophane, and others just enjoy putting needles through their skin in wonderful play-piercing patterns.

The practices by no means have to have a sexual connotation. Even without a sexual element, some of these practices can be risky, so it’s important to inform yourselves about the risks. There are always ways to make play safer!

Stigma has been a leading factor in keeping these conversations under the rug, but it’s time to start speaking up.

Really, in the end, who cares about what people do in terms of their sexual desires? People should be enabled to explore their desires freely, as long as the imperative lines of consent are in place.

Fetish and kink can be really hot, and, who knows, it just might make you cum in ways you’ve never imagined.