{"id":16700,"date":"2018-11-07T09:00:39","date_gmt":"2018-11-07T17:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/?p=16700"},"modified":"2018-11-05T12:49:10","modified_gmt":"2018-11-05T20:49:10","slug":"lets-talk-a-cautionary-tale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/2018\/11\/07\/lets-talk-a-cautionary-tale\/","title":{"rendered":"<em>Let\u2019s Talk?<\/em>: A cautionary tale"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We have all known\u2014or will come to know\u2014at least one fuckboy over the course of our lives: the guy who makes our skin crawl whenever we have to interact with him; the one who has one too many dating apps, yet is eternally single; the one who wears just a little too much cologne, hair product, and\/or jewelry. His sneakers and\/or teeth are uncomfortably white, he always lets social media know when he\u2019s going to the gym, and he\u2019s a little too into his car.<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019s the one who rotates through \u201cbaes\u201d on a weekly basis, ending them all because \u201cshe\u2019s crazy.\u201d He has become a trope in the world of millennials, the avocado toast of the dating pool, if you will\u2014you know it\u2019s not worth it, but it\u2019s convenient, so you do it anyway.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_15677\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-15677\" style=\"width: 225px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Lets-Talk.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-15677\" src=\"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Lets-Talk-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Lets-Talk-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Lets-Talk.jpg 525w, https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Lets-Talk-300x400.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Lets-Talk-180x240.jpg 180w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-15677\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><em>Let&#8217;s Talk?<\/em> is a column exploring women&#8217;s rights issues; it&#8217;s in every issue of <em>Nexus<\/em>.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>The fuckboy is a rite of passage among women in their 20s. At best, we come away with a wariness toward relationships; at worst, a round of antibiotics.<\/p>\n<p>Now, I know I may be oversimplifying things and stereotyping here. I\u2019m probably coming across as a crazy, bitter man-hater who needs to take a good long look in the mirror myself before casting such irrational judgments on these poor guys, right? Because they are more than the sum of their dating profile pictures and Peter Pan complexes. Right?<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Maybe they are. Maybe they are getting painted with a stereotypical, hypocritical brush. Maybe they are tiny onions of insecure layers, just waiting for the right woman to come along and teach them how to love. Maybe, and most likely, they are a product of their environment. They come from a land of low expectations, where women have been deemed irrational and emotional. They see the world through the lens that society has placed in front of them. And, fair enough.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>But here\u2019s the thing, fuckboys: at the end of the day, this doesn\u2019t give you a pass on your behaviour. We get it\u2014you\u2019re damaged, you\u2019re insecure, but so are we. And it is not our job to fix you.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Reminder: being a fuckboy actually has nothing to do with what you wear or your grooming standards. It\u2019s in how you interact with the world around you. It\u2019s in the double standards, and it\u2019s in the blinders you place on the women you fuck.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We have all known\u2014or will come to know\u2014at least one fuckboy over the course of our lives: the guy who makes our skin crawl whenever we have to interact with him; the one who has one too many dating apps, yet is eternally single; the one who wears just a little too much cologne, hair [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":15677,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,222],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16700","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-columns","category-november-7-2018"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16700","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16700"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16700\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16701,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16700\/revisions\/16701"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15677"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16700"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16700"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16700"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}