{"id":17220,"date":"2019-02-20T09:00:45","date_gmt":"2019-02-20T17:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/?p=17220"},"modified":"2019-02-18T11:59:55","modified_gmt":"2019-02-18T19:59:55","slug":"first-things-first-help-i-have-no-social-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/2019\/02\/20\/first-things-first-help-i-have-no-social-life\/","title":{"rendered":"First Things First<\/em>: Help! I have no social life!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

At first, I thought it would be funny to just end this column with one line right here, maybe say, \u201cThis is a legitimate cry for help\u201d or something, but that would be \u201cunprofessional\u201d and \u201cworrisome.\u201d We all love that self-deprecating humor, right? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The unfortunate thing is that humans are social creatures, and our brains tend to react poorly if we haven\u2019t had an interaction with someone else for a while. We get exhausted with the constant routine of going to class and seeing new faces but never having a conversation with them. Friendships don\u2019t go as romantically as we\u2019re used to. It\u2019s less of \u201cwe met and now you\u2019re going to be the best person of honour at my wedding\u201d and more of \u201cwe smile at each other sometimes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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First things First<\/em> is a column about issues pertaining to first-year students; it appears in every issue of Nexus<\/em> (illustration by Tiegan Suddaby).<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

How are you going to make friends as an adult? It depends on what you classify as \u201cfriend.\u201d Are you more interested in having a buddy each class or roping together a group of people that you hang out with constantly? The thing with finding friends is that it\u2019ll be a fluid process. You\u2019ll meet some and you just won\u2019t vibe with them; that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What helped me was talking with acquaintances from high school. I was lucky enough to find some familiar people who were willing to meet up, which I do frequently now. If your high-school past is dreadful (or years away from you), try saying \u201chi\u201d to someone new. Compliments tend to go a long way, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your challenge isn\u2019t finding the soul mate of a friend; it\u2019s finding someone to get along with and learn about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know: talking to new people can make some anxious, but a quick \u201chello\u201d might alleviate some of the antisocial misery your brain\u2019s having.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

At first, I thought it would be funny to just end this column with one line right here, maybe say, \u201cThis is a legitimate cry for help\u201d or something, but that would be \u201cunprofessional\u201d and \u201cworrisome.\u201d We all love that self-deprecating humor, right?  The unfortunate thing is that humans are social creatures, and our brains […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":16623,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,227],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17220","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-columns","category-february-20-2019"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17220","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17220"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17220\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17221,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17220\/revisions\/17221"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16623"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17220"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17220"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17220"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}