{"id":17437,"date":"2019-03-20T09:00:22","date_gmt":"2019-03-20T16:00:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/?p=17437"},"modified":"2019-03-27T10:57:27","modified_gmt":"2019-03-27T17:57:27","slug":"lets-talk-not-my-job-to-cook-dinner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/2019\/03\/20\/lets-talk-not-my-job-to-cook-dinner\/","title":{"rendered":"Let’s Talk<\/em>: Not my job to cook dinner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Recently, I was reminded just how old school the old-school way of thinking about gender roles really is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was chatting with an older man about younger people and our hippie ways, which included him making a crack about vegans, to which I lamented that my boyfriend is a vegan but he wasn\u2019t one when we started dating. The older man quipped a joke about my cooking being the culprit behind his choice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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In as diplomatic a way as possible, I informed him that I\u2019m actually a very good cook (maybe a bit of a stretch) and that my boyfriend and I actually share cooking responsibilities. This seemed to confuse the man even more. At which point, diplomacy went out the window and I just straight-up informed the man that it\u2019s not my job to cook my boyfriend dinner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, sir, sometimes I don\u2019t cook dinner. Actually, more often than not I don\u2019t. But why? I mean, my boyfriend is doing that horrific balancing act of school and work; he\u2019s super busy and stressed and would probably appreciate coming home to a clean house and a hot, homemade dinner every night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But guess what? So would I! Yes, me! The woman who works two jobs, attends two post-secondary institutions, and more often than not doesn\u2019t stop moving until I flop down on the bed to check emails and work on writing while Friends<\/em> plays in the background until I pass out at around 10 most nights. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And even if I did have the time to cook every night, guess what? I still wouldn\u2019t. Because, despite my like (\u201clove\u201d is too strong a word) of cooking, my kitchen is horrifically tiny with zero counter space, which makes cooking anything in there tedious. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The man gave me the head tilt and half-smile that I always feel should come with a condescending pat on the head that the older generation gives when us young folk say something radical. So, I gave him a tight-lipped smile in response and excused myself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I got home that night and asked my boyfriend what was for dinner. He had made us pasta, which I proceeded to eat in bed while watching Friends<\/em>. When I told him about the encounter, he laughed and admitted that he was a little disappointed that he wasn\u2019t there to hear me correct the old-school way of thinking. I don\u2019t know if I\u2019d go so far as to say that I corrected the man\u2019s point of view, but maybe, just maybe, I shuffled the timeline of his old-school ideas a little.  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Recently, I was reminded just how old school the old-school way of thinking about gender roles really is. I was chatting with an older man about younger people and our hippie ways, which included him making a crack about vegans, to which I lamented that my boyfriend is a vegan but he wasn\u2019t one when […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":15677,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,229],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17437","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-columns","category-march-20-2019"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17437","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17437"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17437\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17438,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17437\/revisions\/17438"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15677"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17437"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17437"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17437"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}