{"id":26280,"date":"2025-01-06T09:00:47","date_gmt":"2025-01-06T17:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/?p=26280"},"modified":"2024-12-16T14:24:00","modified_gmt":"2024-12-16T22:24:00","slug":"fellas-lets-figure-it-out-to-be-vulnerable-is-to-be-human","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/2025\/01\/06\/fellas-lets-figure-it-out-to-be-vulnerable-is-to-be-human\/","title":{"rendered":"Fellas, Let\u2019s Figure It Out<\/em>: To be vulnerable is to be human"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vulnerability is something that many men, including myself, struggle with. It\u2019s hard, and it can be scary, but it\u2019s vital in developing and maintaining deep and authentic relationships. Here\u2019s why.<\/p>\n

To be vulnerable is to put yourself in a position, through your words or actions, where others can hurt you and trusting that they won\u2019t. It takes vulnerability to foster trust and connection in groups, whether that be in academia or the workplace.<\/p>\n

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Fellas, Let’s Figure It Out<\/em> is a column appearing in every issue of Nexus<\/em> (photo provided).<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

It also takes vulnerability to ask for help when you need it, and at some point we all need help\u2014help with our classes, financial help, mental-health help.<\/p>\n

Despite how much we may try, none of us can do it all alone. Life isn\u2019t meant to be done alone. Life is meant to be lived fully, with family who love you, friends you can share your problems with, and, if you\u2019re lucky, someone you can be your truest self with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Emotional walls are built up, gradually over time, as a result of our lived experiences. We might think that they protect us, and to an extent they do, but these walls often do more harm than good. You see, walls work two ways\u2014when you build them to protect yourself it keeps out things that can hurt you but it also locks out things that can heal you. If something gets through that hurts you then you have no way to deal with it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The issues that you\u2019re dealing with will stay inside of your head unless you deal with them, and the only way to deal with the things inside of your head is to get them out. Walls prevent that; vulnerability encourages it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The act of vulnerability is a courageous one. Maybe you\u2019ve been burned before, or you\u2019ve never let anyone get too close, but what\u2019s the point of living if you\u2019re always alone, even when you\u2019re with others?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This year, I\u2019m challenging myself\u2014and you\u2014to be vulnerable with someone trustworthy. It can be a friend, family member, or significant other. It might be scary\u2014I was scared to do this in the past\u2014but the rewards and connection you\u2019ll receive from true vulnerability far outweigh the things that scare you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

To be vulnerable is to be human. Happy New Year.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Vulnerability is something that many men, including myself, struggle with. It\u2019s hard, and it can be scary, but it\u2019s vital in developing and maintaining deep and authentic relationships. Here\u2019s why. To be vulnerable is to put yourself in a position, through your words or actions, where others can hurt you and trusting that they won\u2019t. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":24298,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,324],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26280","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-columns","category-january-6-2024"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26280","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26280"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26280\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26281,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26280\/revisions\/26281"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/24298"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26280"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26280"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nexusnewspaper.com\/newsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26280"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}