Queerly Forward: Go f%$& yourself

Columns February 19, 2014

Some of the best sex I’ve had has been with myself.

Nothing makes me moan and groan harder than my right hand stroking my penis, my left index finger slowly massaging my prostate and a creative imagination that places me in multiple hot and sweaty situations.

Self-pleasure is hard to talk about, but easy to do. There are a plethora of tools that can help you out, including dildos, vibrators, clitoral stimulators, anal beads, nipple clamps, and butt plugs. Not only are these toys really fun, but they can help you explore your body and find stimulating spots you may have never known about.

While not everyone is into self-pleasure, it can be an important aspect of a healthy sexuality. Instead of pushing the discussion under the rug, we should be bringing it out in the open and talking about the many ways in which we can pleasure ourselves.

There are a few things to think about in terms of self-pleasure. First, make sure to use lots of lube and go slow; some dildos and vibrators are really big and the last thing you want is a painful tear. Second, make sure to properly clean all toys before and after use. Third, if you’re a shooter, it might not be a bad idea to wear some safety goggles; semen in the eye is the antithesis to a mind-blowing orgasm.

With a few precautions in mind, self-pleasure is awesome. So, go f%$& yourself!