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I am not always an easy person to deal with—either in close relationships or more casually through work, school, and other social networks. I can be argumentative (just ask my instructors), pushy (ask my family), and sometimes I think I know what other people need or want, and brazenly offer my unsolicited advice and all-knowing […]

Have you ever wondered why gender roles come to exist in society? More important question: have you ever questioned it? No? Well, then, let’s talk! So, let’s think about this for a second. What if everything we think or do does not come from rationality but is learned? In fact, we know that most things […]

It’s one thing to be an online student by choice; it’s quite another to have the situation thrust upon us, as we have in this pandemic. We went from being carefree and crowded on campus—happy as anything to shake hands with a stranger or walk arm in arm with a friend to class—to having classes […]

A new semester is upon us. This term I’ve eased my course load knowing full well that in the wintertime, I hibernate. Like so many plants and animals, each year during this season my energy wanes while my desire to recharge and reflect waxes. Flipping the calendar always elicits in me a desire to look […]

What lies beneath our addictions—what drives us to act addictively—is the key to going beyond our current limitations. Addictions are patterns: patterns of thought, patterns of emotional reaction, patterns of behaviour. Overcoming addiction—indeed, changing in any way—involves changing our patterns of thought, emotion, and behaviour. We can start at any of these “layers,” if you […]

So, it’s two weeks into the semester, and we’re just starting to get that feeling of familiarity, of “This is how things work, and I think I understand things.” We probably have a bit of a pattern established of how and when to complete our weekly readings, of how much or how little we can […]

Addiction is about staying asleep, so to speak. Part of the function of being swaddled in the dark cloud of addiction is, more or less, to block out reality. In Pia Mellody’s book Facing Love Addiction she writes that all addicts—including sex, love, and relationship addicts—find reality “intolerable.” Addiction recovery is about waking up from […]

Recently, I read that students like ourselves are depressed over the amount of work it takes to take online classes. The number of emails that have to be answered, the online lectures, the scheduling of study time around the classes, and group meetings if—God forbid—you’ve been assigned a group project. And, of course, all of […]

It’s easy to make new year’s resolutions, but we tend to quit when it gets hard. In years past, I was not one to make any, realizing the futility. However, in honour of my ongoing recovery from addiction, primarily from sex and unhealthy relationships with men, I am more inclined to resolve to set clear […]

There is an enormous empty chasm in communication within this country right now. All across so-called “Canada” there is a rift developing that is setting Indigenous nations and their allies against the Canadian government and big corporations (specifically in the oil and gas industry). I am watching Indigenous communities stand in solidarity against fully militarized […]